Allow me to set this up for you really quick. Statistics show that:
          About 50% of marriages among Americans end in divorce.
          About 50% of marriages among Evangelical Americans end in divorce.

Now that is likely not the first time you have heard that. And regardless of how you look at it, it is a sad statistic. {Notice how I said about 50%? That means these numbers are estimates from a Barna study. If you care to you can Google it and pull up much more accurate results. Suffice it to say these numbers are close.}

These numbers are often used to point out how the ‘church’ needs to examine how it counsels and ministers to married couples before and during marriage. They are also used to shed the church in a negative light by a bunch of ……………. never mind.

Just a question here. What about personal responsibility? I don’t see in scripture where Jesus points out what the institutions need to do. I do see in scripture where he points out what the individuals need to do. Yes churches could do better, but if the people who are in those churches change, won’t that make all the difference?

Now another report says that for “…born -again Christian couples who marry…in the church after having received premarital counseling…and attend church regularly and pray daily together…” experience only 1 divorce out of nearly 39,000 marriages. (This report issued by the Southern Baptist Convention Council on the Family.)


Get it?

Without God  you have a 50/50 chance of your marriage ending in divorce.

Professing that you are believer and faith is important to you, you have a 50/50 chance your marriage will end in divorce.

Profess that you are a believer and seek to follow God and do it His way, you have a 0.00256 percent chance of divorce.

Let me put it another way:

Without God …50/50


Christian…. 0.00256%

John 14:23 says Jesus replied, “If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.

Jesus was pointing out here that loving obedience brings intimate fellowship. Christian faith is much more than professing to be a Christ follower in a survey check box. We are saved by grace thru faith and we are called to obedience motivated by love.

One difference between “Christian” and Christian is that “Christians” tend to do the minimal amount to qualify while Christians seek to live out their love for their savior.

Pot meet Kettle.

Let me openly confess that I far too rarely take my wife’s hand, get on my knees, and pray. I do pray regularly. I pray for her, I pray over her, and I pray because of her. (Don’t tell her I said that. Honey if  you are reading this you know I’m just kidding about that last part…I love you!)

But I don’t pray with her. That is Bad Voodoo. That’s a bad plan. My wife means too much to me to not pray with her. I want an exceptional relationship with my Lord and I can’t have that if I’m not honoring my wife and my marriage.

Men, will you join me in committing to pray with your wife daily?

Married couples, current and future, will you join me in loving Jesus in the manner of John 14:23?

2 thoughts on “"Christian"

  1. Great Point Brian,

    I know 8 years ago, Patrick Morley had the odds at one in 1271 for couples that prayed together daily. Compared to 1 out of 2, some no brainers kicked in.

    Needless to say, Linda and I hardly ever miss a day anymore. It works. Sure, we have differences, but we lift each other up and allow God to work in us.
    So Far, HE is and we continue to give HIM the glory.


  2. Thanks! One in 1271 is pretty good as well. I'd take that. The thing about both of the stats is that even if things were ten times worse, even twenty times, even thirty times worse: the statistics would still show that doing it His way produces WAY BETTER results than not!
    Thanks for reading and for the testimony of God's work in your marriage.


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