(Misleading title alert! It’s not a secret. It’s on the pages of the best selling book of all time.)
It’s a dog eat dog world.
- If He’s not near, I can’t afford to be gentle, and neither can you. Because you HAVE to look out for yourself. Nobody else will.
- If He’s not near and everyone’s wringing their hands, so am I.
- If He’s not near and I fear, I get emotionally hijacked and run…or power up.
- If He’s not near and things are getting dicey – take control! Take control and run over anyone in your way.
- If He’s not near, in marriage, there is one goal -victory.
- If He’s not near – His promises all through Scripture? Just words on a page.
- If He’s not near – my prayers? Talking to the ceiling.
- If He’s not near – my emotions – probably intense in areas like anger and anxiety. Probably limited in areas like love and peace.
If God’s not near,
my universe is small,
I’m at the center,
and it’s all about control.
But What If God IS Near?
Most folks who memorize the Bible memorize Phil 4:6 – “Don’t be anxious about anything…” We love that… that’s a great command from God with a great promise.
Great verse – great verse. Known it since I was in high school.
But right before it…equally excellent. Phil 4:5:
Catch that? “The Lord IS near.” As in Matthew 1:23, “…they shall call His name Immanuel” (which means, God with us).
HE is NEAR.
That means I can AFFORD to be gentle. Gentle flows out of brave. Here’s why:
If the Lord is really loving and compassionate and He really has this whole thing under control and He really really knows the number of hairs on your head and He really really knows when a sparrow falls to the ground, and all that knowledge and attention to detail is directed at you – and He’s near…then brave is in the bag, and gentle flows out of brave.
But what in the world does it mean to be gentle? Because just me doing a simple word association – when I think of gentle I think of:
- A lamb. I don’t want to be a lamb.
- A stuffed animal. Like that creepy talking bear (click link) on the fabric softener commercial.That’s not good.
- A door mat? No.
- A wimp? I don’t think so.
- A picture of a mother cuddling her new born baby taken with one of the soft glow filters so the picture looks slightly out of focus. I’m just not sure how I’m going to pull that off.
Here’s gentleness (male perspective – most get the female
perspective on gentleness):
- When everyone is wringing their hands in panic – the gentle man is calm.
- When everyone is about to come to blows, the gentle man is calm but strong.
- When the walls are caving in and the storm is blowing and it’s time for action the gentle man is in control of his emotions, confident, ready for action… and still gentle.
So let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord really is near.